3 Rules on Guys
1. Be a Silent Observer not a Chatty Crush
Talking about boys get us emotionally high. It clouds our judgement. I have the hardest time myself so I talk with my dad & married pastors/uncles/small group leaders about my heart throb interests. Only women who are mentors or respected peers hear about my attractions. I know they will tell me the sober truth and keep me focused. They are the directional fletchings on my arrow and I’d be lost without them.
2. When a Guy Verbalizes Interest, Tell Him to Ask God if You’re Meant to Be Together
This is a timesaver! If he won’t do this he’s out. If he does do this it slows him down majorly before he gets you all mushy-gushy without any commitment.
3. If You Can’t Respect Him, Don’t Give Him the Time of Day
I don’t waste my time on friendships that drag me down. Male or female. With guys, the level of respect they’ve earned determines how much time I invest in the friendship. This applies to ALL men, irregardless age or marital status.
I’m an impressionable young woman. I need all the good examples I can get!
My respect fluctuates depending on behavioral track record. Moments of foot-in-mouth idiocy must be understood. We commit plenty ourselves.
So there you have it … my crash course on guys.
Live by these rules and you’ll save yourself a lot of grief. I know they’ve helped me!
Many thanks to my friend Andrea for inspiring the writing of the rules!