Unsafe Men in Frequent Places, Part 1
I’m visiting a new pizza place by my work for lunch as I’m writing this. The owner stopped in my store & left a menu offering 10% off for local employees.
I’m pretty hesitant to get to know him. Let me explain why.
While I worked for Starbucks I had a customer named Dave. He would come in for coffee then sit in the mall and read the paper. When I started spending my 15 minute breaks near the fountains with my thoughts & a venti foamy vanilla steamer, Dave started coming over & making conversation.
He was friendly and I was lonely so I didn’t mind at first. But then I started to dread going on break. My coworkers noticed that my breaks started to stretch to twenty minutes. Then it happened.
At the most recent performance I had some beautiful pictures of me in a tutu, alone and also partnering Morgan Stinnett.
I showed them to Dave unwittingly.
“Sexy!” was the first word out of his mouth.
That caught me off guard.
For the next year and a half, I spent the rest of my breaks cloistered in the tiny backroom. I didn’t know what to do but avoidance was the only thing I knew TO do.
When I told the current manager about this uncomfortable situation, he gave me a blank stare. Living far from family without close friends in the area … the LAST thing I needed was a blank stare.
Idea No. 1: Find a Safe Community. Choose Who you Hang With!
If we are getting our “people fix” in a community that is trustworthy … we’re much less likely to stay connected to the “Daves.” I feel safe at church because I Know Who to Go to for Help. Men Particularly.
I am still very careful. Church is a hospital and those who realize the extent of their sickness are the healthy ones. I talk to everybody but I only allow a person into my circle after I’ve evaluated their character.
When brainstorming at church with the director of Shine, people we both knew kept walking through. Do you have a place like that?
So why am I not going back to the pizza parlor? I’m not adding it to my list of “safe places” because the owner isn’t trustworthy. Has nothing to do with the pizza.
Papa & Pizza. Guess Which I love More?!
(Hint: Pizza can’t hug. Not even Mushroom.)